Depressed about loosing my looks, aging, feeling like a "wilting flower" no longer in her prime?

It sounds like you have problems with self esteem more than getting old. If you think all you are is how you look, and how people treat you for you look that is sad. Everyone gets old, accept it. I think you should see a therapist regarding your self-image and self-esteem, you seem more worried about this than is normal. Hopefully they can help you feel better about yourself. Good luck.